I was discussing the issue of sex and dating recently with a single woman. 

Frustrated she asked, “If I have sex too early, I’m easy, if I wait too long, I’m a prude!
If a man likes me enough to wait for sex, won’t the same man still like me enough if he doesn’t have to wait?”

It’s an interesting question. I wrote about the value in waiting in my article Dating & Sex. But no matter how many different ways I tried to explain my position to this woman, she was stuck on the double standard and tried to ‘argue’ that because it wasn’t fair for men to want sex early with women and then judge them for it, she was going to ‘do what she wanted, even if that meant having sex on the first date sometimes and to hell with the double standard.’

I told her that was a fine choice so long as she would be comfortable with the consequences.
That only frustrated her more….

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How long should you wait before having sex? As long as possible and there are many reasons why.

If you already have a time frame for sex set in your mind: married first, engaged, or at the least in an exclusive relationship, I applaud you for thinking it through and honoring your values. But what if you don’t have boundaries set regarding sex.

Then what? Trouble…because that is when one of the following may happen.

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