My friend Anne’s divorce is almost final. Recently a pal of hers approached her with great news. 

“I have the perfect man for you.” She declared happily.

She went on to tell Anne that a male friend of hers is also single.

“He’s an attractive doctor, upstanding in the community, and all around good man.”

She told Anne that she mentioned her to him and he seemed interested. Turns out they had in fact met many years before when they were both married at a party but don’t really recall much about each other.

Anne agreeing that all of it sounded good and looking forward to dating told her friend that she could pass on to Doctor-Man that she’d be interested in meeting him too.

The friend pulled a business card out of her purse and said, “Great, here’s his card, he told me to tell you to call him.”

What’s that sound? Oh yeah, it’s the air coming out of her balloon.

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If you’ve spent any time on this blog you know that I don’t believe women should make the first move with men. See Should You Approach a Man First.

That means not approaching the cute guy at the coffee shop or pub and not calling the friend of a friend you met at Friday night’s party.

I believe in being friendly, open, and approachable and most importantly giving eye contact and smiling which tells a man you’d like HIM to come and get you.

But in the world of online dating, I believe it’s necessary and appropriate to bend these rules. Because through a computer you cannot give a man your radiant smile and eye contact which tells him you’d like him to come forth. If done correctly, you can make the first move via computer and not be regarded at the pursuer. 

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