I’m reading a motivational book entitled “Lead the Field” by Earl Nightingale. It’s a fascinating book laying out a model for success in any area of one’s life.

In it he teaches a lesson we have all heard before from the self-help community: What you think is what you become. In fact, “You are the living embodiment of the sum total of your thoughts to this point in your life; you can be nothing else.”

That quote actually made me quite uncomfortable. Although I “know” that to be true intellectually and believe it, I also like to blame. I like to blame circumstances, other people’s behaviors, the economy, my current problem, my upbringing, my genetics, my education or lack thereof as convenient excuses for any goal or achievement I “say” I want but am not working toward or accomplishing.

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Did you ever notice that often it’s not physical attributes that make people attractive but the way they carry themselves? Sometimes a physically average looking person becomes very attractive from the confidence they exude. They are the ones who are obviously comfortable in their own skin. They have an air of self reliance and control. People are drawn to them, they seem capable and assured.

If you want to be a captivating woman, you must find and own your unique personal style. And wear it with confidence. When I say “style”, I mean the inner qualities that make you original. Your preferences, convictions, talents, interests, quirks and capabilities.

 While our outward “packaging” is important (clothes, grooming, the dos and don’ts of flirting and behaviors), if you don’t genuinely like yourself, feel good about who you are inside and walk through your life with positive energy, you will feel and look like an imposter. So love yourself, because you are worth it.

How to become more Confident 

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