I finally met “Email man” in person. We’d been pen pals for a year and I gave him support and advice as he navigated the first year of his life post divorce. He told me about the women he met, I told him about the men I dated and we both appreciated the perspective of the opposite sex and complete honesty because our friendship was so removed.

 

I wondered if meeting would be a good idea because throughout the year he’d make comments from time to time that made me wonder if he held the thought that our “friendship” could grow into more. General positive comments about my personality or outlook on life….but nothing overt.

 

During our evening, which was at a local dance club with a group of friends, I felt more and more his attraction to me. I had learned enough about him throughout year to know that while he’s a great guy, he’s not for me. I didn’t go into our meeting with any thoughts of him other than a friend, but my fear that he would be coming with some hope was confirmed.

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Well, I have yet to meet “Email Man” in person. Our evening was cancelled because we were hit with a snow storm that dumped 6 inches of snow on us within 5 hours. The roads were terrible and the salt and plow trucks would not have been out until late into the night. I would have forged ahead, (yes, that’s how badly I need a fun night out-more on that later) but Email Man called to tell me everyone was bailing out because of the weather.

 

As it turned out, there was going to be a group of 9 for dinner, drinks and dancing.

We are going to try and re-schedule.

 

What did I do instead?

I slipped into my warmest, cozy lounge clothes and mixed myself my signature drink. 

The seductive, classy and incomparable “Dirty Martini”.

 

It’s difficult to find a great Dirty Martini in clubs and restaurants.

They invaribly make them too dirty (dirty=olive juice) which ruins the drink. And if you order a Dirty Martini and request that it be made “extra dirty”, well, that’s a dead giveaway that you shouldn’t be drinking them anyway.

 

It’s overwhelming how many Martini recipes there are. It’s not easy to find the perfect mix to suit your tastes. But I found mine….

 

My Perfect Dirty Martini:

 

• 2 1/2 oz. Grey Goose Vodka
• 1/2 oz. Vermouth
• 1/2 Olive Juice
• Straight up, Shaken not Stirred (Like Bond)
• Garnished with 3 Blue Cheese Stuffed Olives

Every seductress needs her own signature drink. Now let me say here-an ice cold beer on a hot summer day is wonderful, fabulous, and I love it, but we are shooting for something more here. Something pretty, feminine, classy…you get the idea.

 

It doesn’t have to be an “adult beverage” either. If you don’t drink alcohol try any non-alcoholic Spritzer, Daiquiri or Sparkling Wine. Your signature drink becomes unique to you; part of your personal style. It should be served in an attractive glass and you should feel sensuous slowly sipping it. Especially if you lock eyes with your target while doing so.

 

Of course there is nothing more romantic than sharing a bottle of red wine, good conversation and great food (you know I love to eat) with the man I’m seducing, but other times…….I just have to get “Dirty”.

 

What’s your signature drink?

I met a man via online dating about a year ago. We emailed a few times but we never had the chance to meet in real life because at that time I had already been dating “Sail Man” (marriage minded #2) for a couple of months and was about to enter an exclusive relationship with him.

Here are the facts:

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