My mother and I went to a neighborhood Mexican restaurant for a late lunch the other day.
After we were seated the hostess asked if we wanted anything to drink. 

 

“Are there any drink specials on Margarita’s?” I asked.

 

“No, at 4:00pm they’ll be half off but nothing right now.”

 

I looked at my watch. It was 3:45. Simple solution I thought.

Smiling brightly I said…
“Alright then, we’ll start with water and in 15 minutes; bring us two Margaritas on special.”

 

She laughed and walked away. Several minutes later she delivered water and chips and salsa then walked over to a cute, young waiter and spoke to him while pointing at us.
I assumed he would be our waiter and she was informing him of the drinks we would need at 4 o’clock.

 

As we perused the menu, my mother noticed that the dinner prices went into effect at 4:00 and if we ordered in a hurry, we’d get our Fajitas half off.

 

We both laughed at the situation.
We wanted half off lunch prices and half off drink prices but we had to order both at just the right time.
While we are by no means cheap, it seemed a shame to miss out on the savings at being at the right place at the right time.

 

Looking at my watch I saw we had 8 minutes to get our order in.

Since everything is ordered through the computer, the prices automatically change at certain times.
I stretched in my seat looking for our waiter and as he rushed by on his way to another table he saw me.

 

“You ordered drinks on special for after 4:00, right?”

He asked looking at the water and chips with a look that read he didn’t know what more we needed.

 

“Yes, but we want to order lunch before 4:00 to get the lunch prices and we only have a few minutes.”

 

He reached for his order pad and I noticed a little shake of his head that said,
“These two are going to be high maintenance…”

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“My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. We have no major problems other than things have gotten a little dull. We fell into a routine, which on the one hand is kind of nice because we are comfortable and know where we stand with each other but on the other hand things are starting to get boring.

If I feel it, I know he can.
We call each other every day to touch base with usually a text in the morning and call at lunchtime. We see each other as often as we can, maybe three or four times a week. Even sex has fallen into a pattern. That might be my fault because I’m a little insecure with my body. I don’t initiate sex; I wait for him to do it. He has expressed to me that he would like me to initiate sex sometimes. I just don’t feel very sexy or confident about my body. I love sex with him but I don’t take control.

I’ve been reading your blog and I realize that I am very confident at my job but not confident sexually. I know he loves me but I want to shake things up and ‘rock his world’ but I don’t know how.”

~Sarah~

 

Sarah,

When I ask men what makes a woman sexy the most common answer has been “If she thinks she’s sexy”, or a variation “When she feels sexy on the inside, it shows on the outside”.

 

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Well, I have yet to meet “Email Man” in person. Our evening was cancelled because we were hit with a snow storm that dumped 6 inches of snow on us within 5 hours. The roads were terrible and the salt and plow trucks would not have been out until late into the night. I would have forged ahead, (yes, that’s how badly I need a fun night out-more on that later) but Email Man called to tell me everyone was bailing out because of the weather.

 

As it turned out, there was going to be a group of 9 for dinner, drinks and dancing.

We are going to try and re-schedule.

 

What did I do instead?

I slipped into my warmest, cozy lounge clothes and mixed myself my signature drink. 

The seductive, classy and incomparable “Dirty Martini”.

 

It’s difficult to find a great Dirty Martini in clubs and restaurants.

They invaribly make them too dirty (dirty=olive juice) which ruins the drink. And if you order a Dirty Martini and request that it be made “extra dirty”, well, that’s a dead giveaway that you shouldn’t be drinking them anyway.

 

It’s overwhelming how many Martini recipes there are. It’s not easy to find the perfect mix to suit your tastes. But I found mine….

 

My Perfect Dirty Martini:

 

• 2 1/2 oz. Grey Goose Vodka
• 1/2 oz. Vermouth
• 1/2 Olive Juice
• Straight up, Shaken not Stirred (Like Bond)
• Garnished with 3 Blue Cheese Stuffed Olives

Every seductress needs her own signature drink. Now let me say here-an ice cold beer on a hot summer day is wonderful, fabulous, and I love it, but we are shooting for something more here. Something pretty, feminine, classy…you get the idea.

 

It doesn’t have to be an “adult beverage” either. If you don’t drink alcohol try any non-alcoholic Spritzer, Daiquiri or Sparkling Wine. Your signature drink becomes unique to you; part of your personal style. It should be served in an attractive glass and you should feel sensuous slowly sipping it. Especially if you lock eyes with your target while doing so.

 

Of course there is nothing more romantic than sharing a bottle of red wine, good conversation and great food (you know I love to eat) with the man I’m seducing, but other times…….I just have to get “Dirty”.

 

What’s your signature drink?

The answer is simply…NO. I realize that sounds antiquated to many. Women have been running companies, governments and their families all at the same time for years. They’ve been setting goals for their lives and making proactive choices to achieve them.

 

Men and women alike appreciate the opportunities and choices women now have. It’s a fact that women have changed and changed for the better.

 

But biologically men haven’t changed all that much. Men, generally speaking, are still very much the same. They are achievers and goal oriented by nature. They love the challenge of getting what they want. In life, in buisness and in love. They love not knowing if they will get what they want and they love the feeling of success when they finally do. They love the hunt and the chase after all of their goals including you.

 

Again I say generally speaking. I realize some men are different (lazy) and I’ll tell you why those are the men you don’t want anyway.

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There can be all kinds of reasons why a man may not approach a woman that he finds attractive.

 

I went right to the source one night and asked…

 

I, my best friend, Anne and our best platonic man-friend, George went out for drinks the other night. We sat up at the bar in this order – George, me then Anne.

 

Anne spotted an attractive man on the other side of the bar that she wanted to meet. So she did the only thing a woman should EVER have to do to invite a man’s approach:

She gave him eye contact and smiled.

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