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When Texting is Just Plain Rude
May 10, 2009
I’ve mentioned my friend Anne before….her divorce is almost final and a friend wanted to set her up to meet a nice doctor pal of hers. Anne gave this lady permission to pass on her number.
Said man, we’ll call “No voice Vinnie” texted her one day introducing himself and asked if she’d like to get together for a drink sometime.”
Assuming he was at work since it was the middle of the day and thought he probably couldn’t talk, didn’t think much of the fact that a man she’d never met reached out for the first time to introduce himself- WITH A TEXT, and texted back that yes, she would.
He texted back that he was going on vacation in a matter of days but would like to get together when he returned. She texted that would be fine and to CALL her when he got back.
Awhile later, he texted again and said that “tonight was open if she could swing a last minute drink”. She actually could be free for a short time for a quick one so they made plans, VIA TEXT, to meet later that evening.
20 minutes before they were to arrive at the restaurant, he texted her the following:
Do Women Eat on Dates?
December 28, 2008
We’ve all heard the stereotype that women don’t eat on dates. They order a few crackers and a celery stick and can’t finish them or worse an entire entrée but just pick at it and move it around their plate.
I wondered just how true this could be.
So I asked some of my single friends if they eat on dates and most of them either eat lightly or pick. The reasons they gave are “I’m too nervous” or “I’m too self conscious about how I look eating in front of someone new”. After a few of my own dates had commented on how refreshing it was to see a woman actually eat on a date (I eat) I realized this is in fact a huge phenomenon.
Set Your Goals
December 20, 2008
If you want to find the man of your dreams, you must first be clear about what that means.
When I ask women what they are looking for in a man I get answers like, “Hmm, well he has to be nice, tall, handsome, have a good job…someone I just click with, have chemistry with” or something equally vague along those lines.
While those answers are not bad, they aren’t focused enough to ensure that you won’t waste time with the wrong man. You can “have chemistry” with many men who are “nice, tall, handsome with a good job” but be totally wrong for you. If you depend on your “feelings” to lead you in relationship matters, I guarantee you will be sorry.
Don’t misunderstand, feelings are important. I want you to have attraction and chemistry. But I don’t want you to lead from that place; depending on “clicking” and “chemistry” to tell you who you should date. If you do, those same feelings may confuse you, prevent you from spotting red flags or you’ll spot red flags but ignore them. Or worse, you’ll try to explain them away or plot ways to change them because he gives you butterflies.
Define the Man you Want
Dating Mistakes
December 14, 2008
When a woman is interested in a man, her feelings can get in the way of what she knows a seductress would do and it’s easy to make dating mistakes-Anti-Seductive mistakes- that make his interest wane instead of build. And since most of the women he dates are doing these things, he’ll view you as one of many instead of a unique and seductive creature that he can’t get out of his mind.
Dating Mistakes Women Make:
Dating & Sex
December 11, 2008
How long should you wait before having sex? As long as possible and there are many reasons why.
If you already have a time frame for sex set in your mind: married first, engaged, or at the least in an exclusive relationship, I applaud you for thinking it through and honoring your values. But what if you don’t have boundaries set regarding sex.
Then what? Trouble…because that is when one of the following may happen.
What is Seductive?
November 7, 2008
I asked my boyfriend the other night what he found seductive about a woman. He said that many “types” of women can be seductive in their own way. He said all of them have a unique appeal but it’s the total package that most men are looking for. Not surprisingly he mentioned the popular archetypes of seductresses we’ve all seen in movies or have read about in literature.
Librarian- She isn’t the typical seductress. She doesn’t exactly set out to seduce by being demure, aloof, quiet and smart. But men often find her seductive anyway, because the fantasy is to corrupt her. He wants to bring the fire out from underneath her conservative, prudish clothes. He imagines how fun it would be to unwind that tight bun and see her hair messed up from hot sex.
The Siren- She’s not afraid of the power of her sexuality. She wears it on her sleeve and uses it to her advantage. Men feel more masculine just being in her presence. Their senses are heightened, the air around her is sexually charged. She may be vulnerable like Marilyn Monroe, or strong like Mae West, but she’s always sensual, oozing femininity and sex appeal. She couldn’t help it if she tried.
The Temptress- She is naughty. She has little regard for boundaries. She’s looking to receive and give pleasure pure and simple. Her power lies in the promise of a most memorable sexual experience, the possibility of getting caught, throwing caution to the wind, doing something wild. She represents escape and is willing to deliver.
The Coquette- She is a master at keeping a man in a state of wanting more by vacillating between hot and cold behavior. The prize is always just around the corner, just out of reach so he pursues all the more. His competitive nature keeps him focused on winning the game; he wants to conquer her.