Comments for The Seductress Within http://www.theseductresswithin.com How to Attract the Man and Relationship You Want! Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:27:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 Comment on Dating & Sex by valmont http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2008/12/11/dating-sex/#comment-6301 valmont Mon, 18 Jan 2010 05:11:08 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=122#comment-6301 "when we have sex with a man, it’s almost impossible for our emotions not to deepen. If we give our bodies away too early or too freely with men whom we are not committed and exclusive with we put ourselves at risk for lowered self image when things don’t work out. " I do not necessarily agree with that. that might be the case in the States but in more liberal countries like Canada where I live or scandinavia, women are more independent and sometimes behave "like men" sexually speaking. It has become standard to sleep before the 3rd date with the young crowd (below 30) because women want to test a man before entering a relationship with. ex: I was once dating a women we had sex on the 2nd date (it was dinner at her place), I was too sensitive because I hadn't masturbated for a while and she was too tight so I came too fast...needless to say she lost interest and I never heard from her again although I was still interested in her! so sleeping too quickly can sometimes backfire for the man. As Icebergslim says, guard your penis and f*ck her with your brains! “when we have sex with a man, it’s almost impossible for our emotions not to deepen. If we give our bodies away too early or too freely with men whom we are not committed and exclusive with we put ourselves at risk for lowered self image when things don’t work out. ”

I do not necessarily agree with that. that might be the case in the States but in more liberal countries like Canada where I live or scandinavia, women are more independent and sometimes behave “like men” sexually speaking.

It has become standard to sleep before the 3rd date with the young crowd (below 30) because women want to test a man before entering a relationship with. ex: I was once dating a women we had sex on the 2nd date (it was dinner at her place), I was too sensitive because I hadn’t masturbated for a while and she was too tight so I came too fast…needless to say she lost interest and I never heard from her again although I was still interested in her! so sleeping too quickly can sometimes backfire for the man. As Icebergslim says, guard your penis and f*ck her with your brains!

]]> Comment on Who Pays For The Date? by Pete http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/06/20/who-pays-for-the-date/#comment-5865 Pete Sun, 20 Dec 2009 08:43:02 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=509#comment-5865 The author is an idiot. All she is advocating is more "cake and eat it too!" Equality in paying has nothing to do with helping to bring in the groceries, romantic baths or foot rubs... and I cant remember the last time I paid and got a foot rub or romantic bath! The author is an idiot. All she is advocating is more “cake and eat it too!” Equality in paying has nothing to do with helping to bring in the groceries, romantic baths or foot rubs… and I cant remember the last time I paid and got a foot rub or romantic bath!

]]> Comment on Confidence is a Choice not a Feeling by Love http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2008/11/12/confidence-is-an-attitude-not-a-feeling/#comment-4611 Love Wed, 04 Nov 2009 00:37:19 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=20#comment-4611 I love this advice. It's really helpful to improve one's self-confidence. Keep it up! I love this advice. It’s really helpful to improve one’s self-confidence. Keep it up!

]]> Comment on Sex & Reasons For The Double Standard by Layla http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/03/sex-reasons-for-the-double-standard/#comment-4531 Layla Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:25:10 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=382#comment-4531 I personally think that there is no rule in this waiting or not waiting attitude, but it’s a matter of education and personal preference, and it applies to both men and women. When I was very young my grandmother taught me the old rule: don’t sleep with him early. Let him desire you, let him have the feeling that he conquered you. Don’t make him think you are easy, men marry "serious girls” (her words). I don’t know which is the best way, but I can tell you what happened to my grandma’s rule: I was 18 (I'm from Europe, I was not considered underage!) and virgin, I met a guy 8 years older, and fell in love. I dated him for 6 months, we slept together 3 times, and after that he didn’t want to see me anymore. The same thing happened when I was 26 with another guy. I dated him for a few months until sleeping together, and after we had sex, he just disappeared! My next relation at 19 yo lasted 1 year, and we slept after 3-4 days we met. My longest relation lasted 6 years, and I slept with that guy the day I met him. In my life there were guys who never cared about this aspect, and there were guys who cared. I think it’s just a matter of education and background. Talking about myself, I chose to act natural when I meet a guy, and I don’t think much about waiting or not waiting. Let’s say I meet a guy whom I really like, and I can’t wait to have sex with him. I would personally go ahead and let things happen. I won’t push things myself, but I will also not delay things. If after that, the guy thinks I’m easy, that’s his problem. That means he is not my type anyway. What if I wait and delay having sex with him, he is impressed with my attitude, and thinks the “conquest” was his hard work, and I end up being with him as my partner? Hmmm…from my experience, these guys have preconceived ideas…lots of them. Those things that sound like “ women are like this…and women are like that”. Just think about it, by delaying having sex with him, I would actually “feed” his preconceived idea that women are easy if they sleep with a men after a few days they've met. His preconceived ideas would become a burden in our relationship anyway, and we would end up separating. So why should I play a game (in which I am not myself) with a man I know I won’t ever get along with? My advice? Be yourself, act natural, and do what you feel. If it’s meant to end up, it will end up anyway. If the guy wants nothing else but sex, this is what you end up with, no matter how long you let him wait. If the guy is very attracted to you, and falls in love with you, it just doesn’t matter when you sleep with him, he won’t leave you because you are “easy.” I personally think that there is no rule in this waiting or not waiting attitude, but it’s a matter of education and personal preference, and it applies to both men and women. When I was very young my grandmother taught me the old rule: don’t sleep with him early. Let him desire you, let him have the feeling that he conquered you. Don’t make him think you are easy, men marry “serious girls” (her words).
I don’t know which is the best way, but I can tell you what happened to my grandma’s rule: I was 18 (I’m from Europe, I was not considered underage!) and virgin, I met a guy 8 years older, and fell in love. I dated him for 6 months, we slept together 3 times, and after that he didn’t want to see me anymore. The same thing happened when I was 26 with another guy. I dated him for a few months until sleeping together, and after we had sex, he just disappeared! My next relation at 19 yo lasted 1 year, and we slept after 3-4 days we met. My longest relation lasted 6 years, and I slept with that guy the day I met him. In my life there were guys who never cared about this aspect, and there were guys who cared. I think it’s just a matter of education and background. Talking about myself, I chose to act natural when I meet a guy, and I don’t think much about waiting or not waiting.
Let’s say I meet a guy whom I really like, and I can’t wait to have sex with him. I would personally go ahead and let things happen. I won’t push things myself, but I will also not delay things. If after that, the guy thinks I’m easy, that’s his problem. That means he is not my type anyway.
What if I wait and delay having sex with him, he is impressed with my attitude, and thinks the “conquest” was his hard work, and I end up being with him as my partner? Hmmm…from my experience, these guys have preconceived ideas…lots of them. Those things that sound like “ women are like this…and women are like that”. Just think about it, by delaying having sex with him, I would actually “feed” his preconceived idea that women are easy if they sleep with a men after a few days they’ve met.
His preconceived ideas would become a burden in our relationship anyway, and we would end up separating. So why should I play a game (in which I am not myself) with a man I know I won’t ever get along with?
My advice? Be yourself, act natural, and do what you feel. If it’s meant to end up, it will end up anyway. If the guy wants nothing else but sex, this is what you end up with, no matter how long you let him wait. If the guy is very attracted to you, and falls in love with you, it just doesn’t matter when you sleep with him, he won’t leave you because you are “easy.”

]]> Comment on “Think” Your Way To Dating Success by Layla http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/03/20/think-your-way-to-dating-success/#comment-4529 Layla Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:16:29 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=457#comment-4529 What I think is that people should look for partners who are just like them, and not try to change for a while into a “better self”, because the old self returns anyway some day in the future, and the partner will eventually see who you really are. I think it’s better to let the other see your bad side, and accept you the way you are for real, and not to play a different person. I’ll give you an example: my husband. He changed only during the "hunting" period. He changed himself in order to impress me and marry me, and after only one year of marriage, he turned into a totally different person. And he blames it on me, he says it’s me who has to change now. That is why I am seriously thinking of a divorce after three years of living together. So... everything you said would be correct with a condition: once someone changes into a "better self" as you said, he or she should stick to that better self and never change back to the old self. Otherwise he or she ends up losing everything. In books they say it’s possible but… is that possible in the real life ? Now I am wondering… how many people can change and stay “changed” for good? You said “the physically fit hottie may be looking for his equal and not be attracted to someone who cares less than he does about his health and fitness.” That’s perfectly true! But that girl who wants to be with him, and starts losing weight, can she stay fit for the rest of her life, while being married to him? I don’t think so. She will most probably put back all that weight because that’s actually the way she is. That change is only temporary. Also the girl with $10,000 in credit card debt. That’s a life style! People who have debts, have always had debts, and will always have debts. Because they can’t control themselves. If they change, it will be only for a while, and after that the bad habit will be back. When I said all of the above, I did not refer to exceptions. I know, and I am sure there are people out there who can change and stay changed for good. But how many? 1 in a million, in a billion? So, I think those girls or guys who like junk food in front of the TV should stop dreaming about the neighbor next door who spends 3 hours a day at the gym! They should better look for someone just like themselves: not as “fit and hottie” as you said…. but ready to join them on eating junk food in front of the TV. What I think is that people should look for partners who are just like them, and not try to change for a while into a “better self”, because the old self returns anyway some day in the future, and the partner will eventually see who you really are. I think it’s better to let the other see your bad side, and accept you the way you are for real, and not to play a different person.
I’ll give you an example: my husband. He changed only during the “hunting” period. He changed himself in order to impress me and marry me, and after only one year of marriage, he turned into a totally different person. And he blames it on me, he says it’s me who has to change now. That is why I am seriously thinking of a divorce after three years of living together. So… everything you said would be correct with a condition: once someone changes into a “better self” as you said, he or she should stick to that better self and never change back to the old self. Otherwise he or she ends up losing everything. In books they say it’s possible but… is that possible in the real life ?
Now I am wondering… how many people can change and stay “changed” for good?
You said “the physically fit hottie may be looking for his equal and not be attracted to someone who cares less than he does about his health and fitness.” That’s perfectly true! But that girl who wants to be with him, and starts losing weight, can she stay fit for the rest of her life, while being married to him? I don’t think so. She will most probably put back all that weight because that’s actually the way she is. That change is only temporary.
Also the girl with $10,000 in credit card debt. That’s a life style! People who have debts, have always had debts, and will always have debts. Because they can’t control themselves. If they change, it will be only for a while, and after that the bad habit will be back. When I said all of the above, I did not refer to exceptions. I know, and I am sure there are people out there who can change and stay changed for good. But how many? 1 in a million, in a billion?
So, I think those girls or guys who like junk food in front of the TV should stop dreaming about the neighbor next door who spends 3 hours a day at the gym! They should better look for someone just like themselves: not as “fit and hottie” as you said…. but ready to join them on eating junk food in front of the TV.

]]> Comment on Women Love A Hunter by Janice http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/07/women-love-a-hunter/#comment-4129 Janice Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:22:54 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=407#comment-4129 I disagree with all of you! When a woman has the guts to call a man she demonstrates confidence and confidence is VERY SEXY! ask any man out there!It says to the man, she can have any man she wants but she's interested in ME and chose me from all of them! What better male ego buster than that to start a great relationship? I don't wait for a man to pursue me although I enjoy it very much; if I see something or someone that I want, I go for it with gusto and give it my best shot in the most femenine and seducing way possible. I'm very attractive, sweet and intelligent and don't lack romantic interests nor marriage proposals. I'm looking for my one true love and will not settle for less, therefore I must use all that is available to me for that purpose. You could say I'm a modern amazon woman and men love me for that as many has said I'm their dream woman and have been in love with me for years and continents apart. I disagree with all of you! When a woman has the guts to call a man she demonstrates confidence and confidence is VERY SEXY! ask any man out there!It says to the man, she can have any man she wants but she’s interested in ME and chose me from all of them! What better male ego buster than that to start a great relationship?
I don’t wait for a man to pursue me although I enjoy it very much; if I see something or someone that I want, I go for it with gusto and give it my best shot in the most femenine and seducing way possible. I’m very attractive, sweet and intelligent and don’t lack romantic interests nor marriage proposals. I’m looking for my one true love and will not settle for less, therefore I must use all that is available to me for that purpose. You could say I’m a modern amazon woman and men love me for that as many has said I’m their dream woman and have been in love with me for years and continents apart.

]]> Comment on Try Speed Dating! by *Juliette* http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/08/06/try-speed-dating/#comment-3425 *Juliette* Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:34:42 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=558#comment-3425 I tried it a few days ago with disappointing results. I think it only works when enough people sign up. There seems to be a scarcity of men and the numbers were very uneven. I tried it a few days ago with disappointing results. I think it only works when enough people sign up. There seems to be a scarcity of men and the numbers were very uneven.

]]> Comment on Women Love A Hunter by How to Get the Girl « singlesnetwomen.com http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/07/women-love-a-hunter/#comment-3138 How to Get the Girl « singlesnetwomen.com Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:24:06 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=407#comment-3138 [...] just a reminder that a woman loves a hunter. Filed under: Online Dating No Comments Perfection Will Not Come » Comments (0) [...] [...] just a reminder that a woman loves a hunter. Filed under: Online Dating No Comments Perfection Will Not Come » Comments (0) [...]

]]> Comment on Topics To Avoid On A First Date by erapMayomyvom http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/01/27/topics-to-avoid-on-a-first-date/#comment-2846 erapMayomyvom Fri, 14 Aug 2009 08:09:39 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=331#comment-2846 This look interesting,so far. If there's anyone else here, let me know. Oh, and yes I'm a real person LOL. See ya, This look interesting,so far.
If there’s anyone else here, let me know.
Oh, and yes I’m a real person LOL.

See ya,

]]> Comment on Try Speed Dating! by George http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/08/06/try-speed-dating/#comment-2836 George Thu, 13 Aug 2009 11:55:08 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=558#comment-2836 I have never done speed dating and up until now I don't think I would have tried either, but you've changed my mind. You made it sound pretty interesting, as Kirsten said, you made it more about meeting people not just dates, which sounds relaxing and enjoyable. Thanks Seductress! I have never done speed dating and up until now I don’t think I would have tried either, but you’ve changed my mind. You made it sound pretty interesting, as Kirsten said, you made it more about meeting people not just dates, which sounds relaxing and enjoyable.

Thanks Seductress!

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