My mother and I went to a neighborhood Mexican restaurant for a late lunch the other day.
After we were seated the hostess asked if we wanted anything to drink. 

 

“Are there any drink specials on Margarita’s?” I asked.

 

“No, at 4:00pm they’ll be half off but nothing right now.”

 

I looked at my watch. It was 3:45. Simple solution I thought.

Smiling brightly I said…
“Alright then, we’ll start with water and in 15 minutes; bring us two Margaritas on special.”

 

She laughed and walked away. Several minutes later she delivered water and chips and salsa then walked over to a cute, young waiter and spoke to him while pointing at us.
I assumed he would be our waiter and she was informing him of the drinks we would need at 4 o’clock.

 

As we perused the menu, my mother noticed that the dinner prices went into effect at 4:00 and if we ordered in a hurry, we’d get our Fajitas half off.

 

We both laughed at the situation.
We wanted half off lunch prices and half off drink prices but we had to order both at just the right time.
While we are by no means cheap, it seemed a shame to miss out on the savings at being at the right place at the right time.

 

Looking at my watch I saw we had 8 minutes to get our order in.

Since everything is ordered through the computer, the prices automatically change at certain times.
I stretched in my seat looking for our waiter and as he rushed by on his way to another table he saw me.

 

“You ordered drinks on special for after 4:00, right?”

He asked looking at the water and chips with a look that read he didn’t know what more we needed.

 

“Yes, but we want to order lunch before 4:00 to get the lunch prices and we only have a few minutes.”

 

He reached for his order pad and I noticed a little shake of his head that said,
“These two are going to be high maintenance…”

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Humans have many basic needs: food, water, shelter. Touching and being touched may be just as important.

 

Here are some facts about touch:

 

• There are 50 touch receptors every square centimeter of skin.
• We have 5 million sensory cells.
• Bodies release the pleasure and stress reducing hormone oxytocin when touched.
• Studies have shown that in the absence of touch people of all ages can become sick, depressed and immune compromised.
• Infants deprived of touch can wither and even die.

 

Touching and being touched is an important part of relationships, increasing intimacy, warmth, feelings of connectedness and pleasure. It’s a way to convey understanding and compassion between friends, or love and passion between lovers.

 

Seductive people use the power of touch to communicate more than mere words ever could. Not all touches have to lead to sex. Here are some sensual touches to remember when your relationship is not yet sexual:

 

• Find excuses to touch him. Straighten his tie or gently pick something off of his clothes, then before you remove your hand, lay it open palm on his chest for a few moments.
• Hook you arm around his and put your head on his shoulder.
• Hold hands.
• Rub the back of his neck and play with his hair as he’s driving.
• Give him a good strong hug. Men often feel that women don’t touch them firmly enough; make sure he feels it.
• Don’t let your hands go idle when you kiss. Run them up his arms to his shoulders. Use your fingers on his neck and hair.
• Cuddle up against him while watching a movie.

 

When you are in a sexual relationship:

 

• Continue to do all of the above.
• Give him a body massage.
• Have sex….a lot!

The more positive a man feels about his interactions with you, the more he will want to repeat the experience. Let’s face it; we all want to spend time with someone who makes us feel liked and respected when in their presence. How you treat him and what you believe about yourself can greatly affect what he believes about and how he treats you.

 

Basics for Seduction:

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Should You Approach A Man First?

December 5, 2008

The answer is simply…NO. I realize that sounds antiquated to many. Women have been running companies, governments and their families all at the same time for years. They’ve been setting goals for their lives and making proactive choices to achieve them.

 

Men and women alike appreciate the opportunities and choices women now have. It’s a fact that women have changed and changed for the better.

 

But biologically men haven’t changed all that much. Men, generally speaking, are still very much the same. They are achievers and goal oriented by nature. They love the challenge of getting what they want. In life, in buisness and in love. They love not knowing if they will get what they want and they love the feeling of success when they finally do. They love the hunt and the chase after all of their goals including you.

 

Again I say generally speaking. I realize some men are different (lazy) and I’ll tell you why those are the men you don’t want anyway.

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Reasons Why He Doesn’t Approach You

December 2, 2008

There can be all kinds of reasons why a man may not approach a woman that he finds attractive.

 

I went right to the source one night and asked…

 

I, my best friend, Anne and our best platonic man-friend, George went out for drinks the other night. We sat up at the bar in this order – George, me then Anne.

 

Anne spotted an attractive man on the other side of the bar that she wanted to meet. So she did the only thing a woman should EVER have to do to invite a man’s approach:

She gave him eye contact and smiled.

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