It’s a question that is discussed and debated all the time.

And there are about as many ways to answer the question of “who pays” as there are people who answer it.

 

We’ve heard the many opinions……

 

“Whoever asked for the date pays.”

“The man pays.”

“The man pays for the first date, afterwards paying should be shared.”

“The man pays until there is a commitment.”

“Men and women should go Dutch.”

“Men and women should take turns.”

“Whoever grabs the check first should pay.”

“Men should pay for most of the dates, women should reciprocate sometimes.”

 

The fact is; there is no right or wrong answer.

People have different ideas of how “money” will be used and disbursed in their dating lives.

And each of the above possibilities comes with meaning, hidden agendas, and/or expectations.

The trick is to find someone with whom you click with-on this issue as well as all the others.

 

I’ll tell you what I believe.

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I’ve mentioned my friend Anne before….her divorce is almost final and a friend wanted to set her up to meet a nice doctor pal of hers. Anne gave this lady permission to pass on her number.

 

Said man, we’ll call “No voice Vinnie” texted her one day introducing himself and asked if she’d like to get together for a drink sometime.”

 

Assuming he was at work since it was the middle of the day and thought he probably couldn’t talk, didn’t think much of the fact that a man she’d never met reached out for the first time to introduce himself- WITH A TEXT, and texted back that yes, she would.

 

He texted back that he was going on vacation in a matter of days but would like to get together when he returned. She texted that would be fine and to CALL her when he got back.

 

Awhile later, he texted again and said that “tonight was open if she could swing a last minute drink”. She actually could be free for a short time for a quick one so they made plans, VIA  TEXT, to meet later that evening.

 

20 minutes before they were to arrive at the restaurant, he texted her the following:

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I like to define class as an equal mix of Manners and Etiquette.

 

Manners- Being considerate and respectful of others.

 

Etiquette- Set rules or guidelines for behavior in specific situations. (Use of dinner utensils, gift giving, social decorum)

 

Here are some basic tips for both!

Three Guidelines for Great Manners

Treat Everyone With Respect- Don’t save your manners for those you are trying to impress or for those you are grooming to help you in the future.

 

 

Use Tact- It’s always wise to be honest but don’t use honesty as an excuse to say something hurtful.

 

 

Be Considerate- Be on time, show people you value and appreciate them, say “please” and “thank you”, be considerate of other’s comfort.

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From the French, literally translated “I know not what”.

It’s an intangible quality that makes something attractive or alluring.

 

Seduction is all about je ne sais quoi.
It’s about confidence, intelligence, wit and beauty.

 

Being clever and crafty, sexual and haunting.
The way a woman carries herself with a glow of inner peace and tranquility.

 

Je ne sais quoi

 

I was out to dinner the other night at a local 4 star restaurant.

The décor was beautiful the staff gave exceptional personal attention, the food exquisite.
It wasn’t very crowded so I noticed a couple who walked in and was seated near my table.

 

He was an older gentleman, very well dressed and on his arm was a lovely younger woman also very nicely dressed.

By her appearance alone, she looked quite elegant.
But as I watched them periodically throughout the evening, she became less attractive by the minute.

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