Comments on: When Texting is Just Plain Rude

By: -NN-

-NN- — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 17:00:40 +0000

I think I disagree - _I_ don’t want talk to a guy on the phone if I don’t know himn well.
I don’t know anything about him, he should lead the conversation, but since I don’t know him, I don’t want to tell him anything, and he asks.. I get feeling of being hunted or that he has a shopping list and he thinks he can chose, and that is when he is out-… and most guys don’t have a good voice.
So what a phone call has lead to usually; I have noticed that I just lost the interest - why would I meet him, when I am already bored with him?

I am ok with texting, if I let him have my mobile number at all
(most times I don’t give my number to a unknown guy before I meet, since I know myself that how unlikely it is that I feel any chemistry, and without chemistry I don’t want to meet him for a second date)

By: CJ

CJ — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:15:08 +0000

Too much texting would make me feel like I was having a relationship with a phone, not a man!

By: Seductress

Seductress — Thu, 14 May 2009 21:35:52 +0000

Thanks for the comments everyone... George, I agree that people tend to be bolder in email and texting because it is so impersonal. Not necessarily a good thing! Mike, yes, women do like it when the man calls. Don't feel forward asking for a phone number. If the woman is uncomfortable she may give an email instead. Once you get to know each other a little bit that way, then move up to the digits. Welcome Sandra, I agree. We teach people how to treat us by what we accept. How is a man or anyone to know unless we ask for what we want? Good point. Lisa, I love texting too, but like you, within reason.

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 11 May 2009 11:29:30 +0000

I have to start by saying I love texting. I text back & forth with my friends & daughters constantly so I have nothing whatever against it. BUT I definitely agree that this situation was completely inappropriate and is a sign of emotional unavailability. In an relationship things are different but at the beginning of a relationship or as a way of introducing and setting up then canceling a first date it’s a big no-no!

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sun, 10 May 2009 23:47:41 +0000

I really enjoy reading your blog.

I agree with everything said here.

The reason grown men think that this is okay, is probably because there are women out there that put up with this behaviour. I used to be one of those women, and it got me nowhere and I felt like a doormat.

I feel that women in general have lowered their standards in the dating world.

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 10 May 2009 20:13:41 +0000

People like the easiest, most efficeint way possible. The only problem is that it is rarely very effective. I remember when I first started online dating. I felt a little forward asking for a woman’s phone number so I would offer mine. Many of these women disappeared. One woman said I like when guys call me and gave me her number. We went out for a while. I never made that mistake again.

By: George

George — Sun, 10 May 2009 15:18:06 +0000

Texting can be extremely annoying. I have a cousin of mine who will send me long text messages and it gets on my nerves. Quick messages is what they should be used for.

I think the fact that it is so disassociated from human contact that it sometimes makes it easy to do some uncomfortable things…like asking someone out. But it’s lazy and classless. Too many people are saying things that they should be saying in person with emails and texting, simply because it’s easier, quick and to the point.

Good artical and thanks for posting it!