I would never recommend that a man ignore and push past a woman’s resistance.

That said: the man that possesses a strong, virile, passionate even slightly dangerous quality and knows what to do with it, is the hottest man.
Rhett, a refined gentleman and Stanley, bordering on animal both had the quality and in reality, both did misuse it.

But they DID know their women. There WAS a chemistry and relationship (albeit complicated) between the players. I think we were led to believe in both stories that these men KNEW that if they pushed the women would give in to their deeper desire.

It’s the stuff romance novels are littered with. It’s a huge fantacy for many women to be wanted that badly and desired so strongly which is why these movies are so hot and romance novels are the largest selling books of any category.

I want to understand this a lot better. In one case where I held back when a woman resisted, and gave her time - we were going to be in the same city a few weeks later, but she found a boyfriend in the meantime (that she later dumped for being crazy obsessive). I found out much later that he *hadn’t* respected her resistance, combining heavy romantic gestures and (like Rhett) some physical force, and she’d yielded.

One conclusion I’ve heard guys come about this kind of thing is that “you may as well do her anyway, because if you don’t, some bastard will who’ll treat her much worse.” This is not enough for me. And I know honest communication can also work. (I finally got in the same city as the woman above, years later, and at the right time told her how I felt, & that I wanted to get to know her better, and she reacted very positively. Slow learner, but I learned.)

But I’m sure I can learn from Rhett Butler and Stanley Kowalski without abandoning my hippie/feminist outlook. (A left-wing bisexual friend told me I was the strongest feminist she knew - I took it as a compliment.)

What’s your take on this?

I like the way he desired Scarlett, and his strength and mettle….I would never want to live their relationship….as it was disfunctional to the core.

If this actually happened to you (and you reacted like Scarlett) I wonder what kind of blog post you’d write, about the guy that you weren’t into who forced his attentions on you, and how he entirely deserved the assault charge. It sounds like a rape fantasy - it’s fine because the woman is in control, as long as it remains a fantasy.