Comments on: Je ne sais quoi http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/ Seduce Him and Keep Him! Sun, 05 Sep 2010 23:39:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: hunter http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/#comment-273 hunter Fri, 20 Feb 2009 05:33:05 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=416#comment-273 He didn't know which fork to use? Two thoughts come to mind: Some men need to know when to keep their mouths shut.(for some men, on the first three dates, anxiety levels are very high) Some men are clueless. He didn’t know which fork to use?

Two thoughts come to mind:

Some men need to know when to keep their mouths shut.(for some men, on the first three dates, anxiety levels are very high)

Some men are clueless.

]]> By: The Seductress http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/#comment-270 The Seductress Fri, 20 Feb 2009 03:04:39 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=416#comment-270 Welcome Tina! Yes, "spark" is a great way to put it. Dating Goddess, I think your date would have been better off to say nothing and watch to see which fork you used... Yes, all these little things matter to the whole picture that we see in others and how WE are seen. The Seductress Welcome Tina! Yes, “spark” is a great way to put it.

Dating Goddess, I think your date would have been better off to say nothing and watch to see which fork you used… Yes, all these little things matter to the whole picture that we see in others and how WE are seen.

The Seductress

]]> By: Tina T http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/#comment-214 Tina T Fri, 13 Feb 2009 00:34:25 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=416#comment-214 I'm so happy that you defined Je ne sais quoi, I obviously didn't pay enough attention in French class. For me it totally sums up that spark when you meet someone and it just cannot be defined. I also agree on the manners. Manners and chivalry are very important to me. I think that's part of what moved my husband from the cute guy category into the husband material category for me. I’m so happy that you defined Je ne sais quoi, I obviously didn’t pay enough attention in French class. For me it totally sums up that spark when you meet someone and it just cannot be defined.

I also agree on the manners. Manners and chivalry are very important to me. I think that’s part of what moved my husband from the cute guy category into the husband material category for me.

]]> By: George http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/#comment-190 George Wed, 11 Feb 2009 00:08:49 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=416#comment-190 Yes Seductress...I agree with you here again. I can't tell you how many women and men lack in the classic manners department. I think what it comes down to is that people tend to be lazy. It takes effort and work to be classy and well mannered. But it pays off. I'm looking forward to hearing your tips! The power again is how you think rather than how you may feel, once you see the changes in how people view you...the feelings will come naturally. Yes Seductress…I agree with you here again. I can’t tell you how many women and men lack in the classic manners department.

I think what it comes down to is that people tend to be lazy. It takes effort and work to be classy and well mannered. But it pays off. I’m looking forward to hearing your tips!

The power again is how you think rather than how you may feel, once you see the changes in how people view you…the feelings will come naturally.

]]> By: Dating Goddess http://www.theseductresswithin.com/2009/02/09/je-ne-sais-quoi/#comment-186 Dating Goddess Tue, 10 Feb 2009 16:47:02 +0000 http://www.theseductresswithin.com/?p=416#comment-186 You are so right! Not that I am a manners queen myself, but I do notice. For example, on my first date Sat. night, the 49-year-old man asked me which fork to use for his salad. I'm not a snob (I hope!), but I'd hope by nearly 50 the man for me would know that detail. If he had other alluring qualities I could easily overlook a forgotten cutlery protocol. But, as you point out above, his posture was slouchy when standing and sitting and there were other things that cumulatively made me decide this was a one-date only encounter. Unfortunately, most of us don't have a mother around to correct or remind us anymore, so our bad habits become engrained. So how can we become aware of off-putting behaviors that we don't know we're doing? You are so right! Not that I am a manners queen myself, but I do notice. For example, on my first date Sat. night, the 49-year-old man asked me which fork to use for his salad. I’m not a snob (I hope!), but I’d hope by nearly 50 the man for me would know that detail. If he had other alluring qualities I could easily overlook a forgotten cutlery protocol. But, as you point out above, his posture was slouchy when standing and sitting and there were other things that cumulatively made me decide this was a one-date only encounter.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t have a mother around to correct or remind us anymore, so our bad habits become engrained. So how can we become aware of off-putting behaviors that we don’t know we’re doing?

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