Humans have many basic needs: food, water, shelter. Touching and being touched may be just as important.

Here are some facts about touch:

• There are 50 touch receptors every square centimeter of skin.
• We have 5 million sensory cells.
• Bodies release the pleasure and stress reducing hormone oxytocin when touched.
• Studies have shown that in the absence of touch people of all ages can become sick, depressed and immune compromised.
• Infants deprived of touch can wither and even die.

Touching and being touched is an important part of relationships, increasing intimacy, warmth, feelings of connectedness and pleasure. It’s a way to convey understanding and compassion between friends, or love and passion between lovers.

Seductive people use the power of touch to communicate more than mere words ever could. Not all touches have to lead to sex. Here are some sensual touches to remember when your relationship is not yet sexual:

• Find excuses to touch him. Straighten his tie or gently pick something off of his clothes, then before you remove your hand, lay it open palm on his chest for a few moments.
• Hook you arm around his and put your head on his shoulder.
• Hold hands.
• Rub the back of his neck and play with his hair as he’s driving.
• Give him a good strong hug. Men often feel that women don’t touch them firmly enough; make sure he feels it.
• Don’t let your hands go idle when you kiss. Run them up his arms to his shoulders. Use your fingers on his neck and hair.
• Cuddle up against him while watching a movie.

When you are in a sexual relationship:

• Continue to do all of the above.
• Give him a body massage.
• Have sex….a lot!

9 Comments »

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   Comment by Mike — January 13, 2009 @ 1:45 pm

   I always notice when a woman touches me and they always get an extra star when I’m deciding if we should go out again. The hug is major. In this area men are usually the initiator, but for a woman to pull you into her space will melt almost any man.

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   Comment by George — January 13, 2009 @ 8:56 pm

   I think that it is very important for women to do some of the touching…the iniciation of the touching. It makes a guy feel good to have her be physical. Liked it all! You sure know your stuff Seductress!!!

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   Comment by The Seductress — January 14, 2009 @ 2:47 pm

   Touch is very important. The mistake women make is they either overdo it: trying to rely on or use sexual signals to attract him (which is artificial) or underdo it: not touching him at all for fear if she does it sends the “I’m ready for mounting” message.

   If a woman is confident, classy, and comfortable in her own skin, she can add non-sexual but sensuous touches and send the right messages to her man, not the wrong ones.

   Seductress

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   Comment by Karl R — January 15, 2009 @ 1:33 pm

   One of the benefits of being part of a social dance scene is that people touch people. You hold your partner when you dance; you greet regular dance partners with a hug; you might have an arm around a friend while you chat afterward. Social dancers tend to be rather tactile people. I suppose it’s no surprise that a lot of people start dating someone they met through dancing.

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   Comment by hunter — January 21, 2009 @ 6:35 am

   A woman can get his attention, when she hugs from behind, embracing his back with her chest.

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   Comment by hunter — January 21, 2009 @ 6:38 am

   She can give him a deep tissue massage, alternating, between his shoulders and pectorals, as he puts on a condom.

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   Comment by The Seductress — January 22, 2009 @ 6:36 am

   Hunter, yes both of those ideas would score points!

   Seductress

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   Comment by hunter — January 24, 2009 @ 4:35 am

   It has been my experience, that few women know about touching.

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   Comment by searchingwithin — February 4, 2009 @ 1:47 pm

   This is one of the things I don’t understand about Online dating, and getting to know people on line through dating services. And the texting craze is the worst. There is nothing involving the senses with this empty interaction.

   I find the whole process too cold. I want to learn about this person through face to face interaction, which includes not only body language, and words, but smell, touch, sound, taste, sight. I want to use these senses when I am finding out the answers that go along with “compatibility tests”, and those of our own choosing.

   ~Best Wishes~

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