The more positive a man feels about his interactions with you, the more he will want to repeat the experience. Let’s face it; we all want to spend time with someone who makes us feel liked and respected when in their presence. How you treat him and what you believe about yourself can greatly affect what he believes about and how he treats you.

Basics for Seduction:

Smile A Lot

A warm, genuine smile makes him feel accepted and special. It puts him at ease and translates that you are enjoying his company.  It also gives you a confident, relaxed and happy appearance. Smiling is very disarming and influential. A man may not remember every fine detail of the evening or conversation but he will remember how you made him feel during the evening and how you looked wearing that lovely smile. 

Have An Opinion

When your date asks you what you would like to do, don’t say “Oh, I don’t know whatever you want to do.” You’re mistaken if you think this makes you appear attractive because you are “easy to please”. It will slowly erode your image as an equal, lessen his respect for you and make you appear boring.

The same goes for conversation. Offer your opinions during conversation even if you think they might be contrary. As long as your delivery is classy and respectful your opposing opinions won’t be seen as rude, he will view you as a strong, independent thinker.

Don’t Fish For Compliments Or Be Self Deprecating

Confident, seductive women never utter, “Did you notice my haircut”, “Do I look fat in this”, “I hate my nose”, as a ploy to pry out a compliment. During the two relationships with the men who wanted to marry me, I never once asked their opinion about my appearance, cooking, or ability to do anything. I have insecure days like every woman but they never knew it. To them I was confident, secure, and happy with myself always. That made me very attractive, different from most women and as such the accolades came freely.

Whine to your girlfriends if you’re feeling badly and need encouragement, not to your men. Better yet, work on yourself so your need to look to outward for an emotional boost becomes less and less.

When he compliments you, NEVER EVER disagree with him.

Be humble, smile sweetly and say, “Thank you”.

Leave Him Wanting More

If you hang around too long during dates and phone calls; you could either wear out your welcome or appear a little desperate wanting your time together to go on and on… You want him to feel a little disappointed that your time together is ending. Leave him wanting more and looking forward to seeing or talking to you because it never feels burdensome only good and fun and light. Men dislike talking on the phone so keep calls short and be the one to end dates before he does.

Share Your Dreams And Goals

One of the things men fear about relationships is a woman whose whole life revolves around him. He’s afraid of the ordinary, of being bored.

Inspire him. Make him feel like you are going somewhere in life with or without him. Share with him your “bucket list”, the new things you want to learn, and the places you want to travel to. If you don’t have dreams and goals besides getting a husband then you need to cultivate some soon. Otherwise you will be seen as a potential ball and chain or someone he has to “complete” instead of an independent partner who will add value and excitement to his life.

Flattery Will Get You Everywhere

But only if you are sincere. People crave appreciation and eat up compliments even if they resist or play it off like they don’t. Men desire to be respected and appreciated as much as women desire to be romanced and listened to. When he does something thoughtful, tell him. Let him know when you admire something about him and ask his opinion about things he’s knowledgeable about. For example, “You are so smart about business, what is your opinion of this…?” Validate him when he treats you in ways you appreciate and you will see more of the same.

5 Comments »

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   Comment by Mike — January 5, 2009 @ 3:25 pm

   Great advice and hopefully my next date will have read your blog.

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   Comment by James — January 8, 2009 @ 6:56 am

   I totally agree with you! I think it comes across as insecure to fish for complements and not knowing what you want to do drives me crazy. Very good advice indeed!

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   Comment by Karl R — January 14, 2009 @ 5:29 pm

   These also work for men.

   Smiling is a great way to get a girlfriend, or a platonic friend. A big smile lets someone know that you’re genuinely happy to see them.

   When I ask a date what she’d like to do, I usually name a couple options. “I thought we could do X or Y. Is there one that you’d prefer?” That demonstrates that I actually have a plan (and a backup), but I’m also taking her preferences into account.
   When discussing other opinions, I always try to explain my opinions in a way that makes sense, yet respects other people’s ability to hold opinions different from my own.

   Always accept compliments. The easiest response is, “Thank you.” Responding with a compliment also works, but I recommend something more original than, “You too.”

   I also try to leave my dates wishing they had a little more time with me … as opposed to a little less. I don’t insist on being the one to end the date first … because this could lead to the the ludicrous situation where we’re both unwittingly racing to end the date before the other one does.

   Instead of sharing my dreams and goals, I usually share my current interests or stories about my past (with similar results). It makes it obvious that I have an interesting life.

   When offering compliments, I try to make them true, specific and unique. Instead of telling a woman that I like her hair, I might tell her that I like the way her hair moves when she dances. Instead of telling a woman that she’s a great dancer, I might tell her that I’m impressed by her flashy footwork.

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   Comment by peace — March 20, 2009 @ 9:50 am

   Hey really i don’t knw hw to appreciate u 4 the good work.
   Really my relationship has been intresting after i started reading your articals. i love them plus your advice. please keep it up.
   thanks.

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   Comment by The Seductress — March 20, 2009 @ 11:22 am

   Thank you Peace and Welcome.

   The Seductress

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